tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2298918764307626057.post2267362796763969373..comments2023-11-30T11:24:14.724-06:00Comments on Life's a Polyp : When I'm Asked How I'm DoingJennyhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/16198921480286128160noreply@blogger.comBlogger10125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2298918764307626057.post-69415479460104047152018-05-16T13:04:02.686-05:002018-05-16T13:04:02.686-05:00I like Not too horrible. I feel like I'm flat ...I like Not too horrible. I feel like I'm flat out lying when I say pretty good most of the time. I'll remember the not too horrible though!Jennyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16198921480286128160noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2298918764307626057.post-2063144056055453062018-05-16T11:08:18.732-05:002018-05-16T11:08:18.732-05:00I just tried a new one the other day, "Not to...I just tried a new one the other day, "Not too horrible"..."pretty good" also seems to work. Anonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01545644614795162170noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2298918764307626057.post-273458639030283402018-05-14T12:30:39.236-05:002018-05-14T12:30:39.236-05:00That's a great idea to phrase our inquiry a di...That's a great idea to phrase our inquiry a different way to let the other person realize our genuine interest in more than a superficial encounter. I think you're unfortunately correct about a lot of people not knowing how to truly genuine in their interactions with others.Jennyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16198921480286128160noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2298918764307626057.post-51180344661784878052018-05-13T19:29:11.484-05:002018-05-13T19:29:11.484-05:00Excellent conversation here, everyone! Good foo...Excellent conversation here, everyone! Good food for thought on going beyond pat answers. If I am on the other end (the inquiring side), and I am not just saying empty words, but I am GENUINELY INTERESTED, I will ask in a way which invites o e with an opportunity to be honest, if that's okay with the other person. Perhaps asking "I'm interested with how you're experiencing your current situation now with daily challenges - what's it like for you?" How we really are with someone speaks more universally loudly and clearly than any words do. Many (most?) people are unaware of how to really be genuine. Dialogue that is genuine is healing i many ways for both sides. Anonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13890351450503499981noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2298918764307626057.post-33161243015683540182018-05-12T20:23:56.157-05:002018-05-12T20:23:56.157-05:00I try not to illicit pity from others too. It'...I try not to illicit pity from others too. It's harder to hide the truth from those we're around the mostJennyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16198921480286128160noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2298918764307626057.post-61934150157834814602018-05-12T20:23:03.383-05:002018-05-12T20:23:03.383-05:00I use ok with superficial encounters on the odd ch...I use ok with superficial encounters on the odd chance I have them but I tend to get called out if I use ok with those I'm around most. When it's superficial, no one seems to notice or really careJennyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16198921480286128160noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2298918764307626057.post-74117519830443896312018-05-12T18:22:13.343-05:002018-05-12T18:22:13.343-05:00For my own sake I don't like lying, and yet I ...For my own sake I don't like lying, and yet I also don't want to make the other person feel sorry for me/uncomfortable for asking. But there are definitely ways to get across that not all is well without saying so outright. "I'm hanging in" is also my go-to bc it gives the idea that things aren't easy but I'm managing, which has been my normal for the last several months. When I'm feeling worse, I'll say "I've been better... But I've also been worse," bc it's true and it ends on something of a bright(er) note. "Not great", "managing" and "Eh" are my codes for not feeling/doing well, and only those closest to me (or those also with chronic illnesses) get any more specific details, unless I'm specifically asked.Anonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04998423936132793802noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2298918764307626057.post-75097426810907436112018-05-12T15:54:48.740-05:002018-05-12T15:54:48.740-05:00I gloss over it because sometimes I don't feel...I gloss over it because sometimes I don't feel like going into it and I know most of the time they don't actually want to know, so I go for "OK". Also, I increasingly feel private about it. But if it's someone close who actually cares I will be honest. My husband tried being honest to everyone but it was too hard. Now he skips it all together and just says hi back. Nobody seems to notice! Lowen @ livingpositivelywithdisability.comAnonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04754654637718039818noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2298918764307626057.post-54759443491038185782018-05-12T13:20:17.183-05:002018-05-12T13:20:17.183-05:00Whenever I say "I'm ok" which is typ...Whenever I say "I'm ok" which is typically my standard reply, those that I'm around a fair amount call me out on it so I found this to cut out the whole process quickly and effectively. But just superficial encounters, I tend to stick "ok" like your "good". Jennyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16198921480286128160noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2298918764307626057.post-17845962950882689142018-05-12T12:59:16.327-05:002018-05-12T12:59:16.327-05:00i usually say something like im good or doing pret...i usually say something like im good or doing pretty good, which then leads to the person asking to say good to hear and that ends the conversation. now to those who truly want to know which for me are very few and far between i will say what you do im hanging in. which lets them know that i am ok but could be better<br />johnhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16995439124410737916noreply@blogger.com